Ten Wedding Disaster Prevention Tips: Part Three

Tips five and six of your ten wedding disaster prevention tips are wide ranging, but at the same time key to heading off common problems that brides and grooms encounter as they mount the biggest event of their lives.

• Resist Perfectionism: There is no quicker way to a wedding day disaster than to allow the insidious strains of perfectionism to control you. At best it will ruin your wedding day and it has been known to plant the seeds that will ultimately destroy the very thing you are celebrating in your wedding - your marriage.
  
  No, there is nothing wrong with hoping that your big day is perfect, but do not demand it. That is foolish and it's the qickest route I know to "bridezilla". Neither you, nor your groom, nor your family, nor friends are perfect. It is not wise to demand that any of you be perfect, even for a second much less an entire day. Besides, it is the quirks we find in each other that allows us to feel comfortable with each other. Enjoy each other, quirks and all while you celebrate your new marriage. If you can do this you will nearly disaster proof your wedding because if something goes wrong it won't bother you.
  
• Make Backup Plans: Redundancy is at the core of any disaster planning - even wedding day disasters. Simply put the best way to ensure that you don’t have a major disaster on your hands is to have a back up plan in the event that something does go wrong.
  
  For example, choose a venue that can give you an alternative option in the event the people renting the venue on the evening before you set off the sprinkler system. This can be a second room or possibly a garden or courtyard.
  
  An even more likely example is an outdoor wedding. If you are scheduling an outdoor wedding you have probably taken weather into consideration when you chose your dates - but what are you going to do about the possibility that the weather may still not cooperate? What about other things that could threaten that gorgeous wedding cake you commissioned? That could truly be a wedding day disaster unless you have back up plans.

Ten Wedding Disaster Prevention Tips

We've all heard stories of wedding disasters. They are stories of stress meltdowns as a result of a lack of aspirin or hair clips when they are needed, over bearing relatives, uncooperative weather, or...? Such accounts are the stuff of morning personality radio shows, magazine articles, and more. But most wedding day disasters can be managed with an ounce of prevention.

1. Focus on the Celebration: It is easy to allow yourself to get so wrapped up in staging a wedding that you forget that apart from the legal aspects of the ceremony, the wedding is more about celebrating the beginning of your new life together than it is creating a perfect day. It is a party. Let yourself enjoy the celebration. If you have a wedding day disaster, if something falls over, prevent it from becoming a major catastrophe by laughing at it as if you had just seen the same incident on America's Funniest Home Videos.
   
2. Designate Contact People: On your wedding day you cannot be in all places at all times, yet there are always a thousand little details that you will not have anticipated or at least have not adequately communicated. That is just the way big productions like weddings are. So the next wedding disaster prevention tip is, if you choose not to use a wedding planner, to designate specific contact people to help coordinate your wedding day. Share with each one of them your vision of how your wedding in their specific area and then be gracious with the decisions they make. Be sure to have one in the area of the reception for the pastry chef and florist to contact, another in charge of the ceremony for the florist and clergy to touch base with, and another responsible for the photography (choose someone who knows everyone in your party and who can and will track down missing family members at the bare minimum).
   
3. Wedding Day Survival Kit: Borrow, build, or buy one. The stress of the wedding day is notorious for creating scenarios where a melt down is triggered by something as trivial as lost bobby pins or the unexpected need for a seam ripper, or needle and thread, super glue, safety pins, earring backs, deodorant, etc. These are all items you will need eventually anyway so you won't be wasting money by investing now in a wedding day survival kit to prevent a wedding day disaster.
   
   Come back for Part 2 of "Ten Wedding Disaster Prevention Tips"