Virtually every wedding needs attendants. Unless you are being married by an Elvis impersonator in a Las Vegas wedding chapel on the spur of the moment you will want (or even need) some attendants. But along with that need comes the question of who is expected to pay for what?
Here is a quick outline of who is traditionally expected to pay for what:
The attendants cover the cost of:
- Clothing (i.e. Tux, Bridesmaids dress)
- Accessories
- Travel to the wedding
The couple getting married cover the cost of:
- Accommodations for the wedding party (hotel, rooms in relatives homes, etc.)
- Transportation to and from the ceremony (don’t let your wedding become the source of the next bridesmaid stranded at the reception venue horror story)
- Bridesmaid Gifts / Groomsmen Gifts
- Bouquets / Boutonnieres
Ultimately, remember this: While your attendants are providing you with a service of love, it is not a blank check. Show them the same love they are showing you by being a part of your wedding - respect their checkbook.
Consider their financial situation before hand and speak openly with them about the financial aspects when you ask them to be part of your bridal party. Give them all the information they need up front to make an informed decision about their ability to be a part of your wedding. This will give them a gracious way out if they just can't afford the cost - and almost all of us have been there at one time or another.
Of course, if you really want them to be a part of your wedding and your can afford to do so, you could always budget some or all of the attendant’s expenses into your budget… even if that means spending less on your wedding gown or flowers for your wedding.
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