Use Your Wedding to Build Your Marriage

During the months prior to your wedding day it's easy to forget that you are building more than a wedding - you are building your marriage. It sounds ominous, but it's really a great opportunity. During the period of time when you plan your wedding you can learn more about each other's strengths and weaknesses than you probably have had an opportunity to learn before. That knowledge, in turn, will provide you with a good start as you build your marriage.

The key, though, is to remember that your first job is to build your marriage - even above the wedding.

She Says

Far too often brides note that their groom isn't approaching the preparations for the wedding the same way that she does and forgets that there is a real difference in the way men and women approach the tasks of life. Instead they assume his apparent silence means he doesn't care about the wedding.

He Says

At the same time, when the groom sees his bride-to-be click into planning mode he finds that he is engaged to someone totally different from the woman he thought he knew. As a result he often withdraws or redirects his attention as he tries to regain his balance.

Unfortunately, this problem is... more