Ten Wedding Disaster Prevention Tips: Part Four

Well, here we are with wedding disaster prevention tips numbers seven through ten. But don't let the fact that the last four are brief lull you to sleep. Each on of these tips has the potential to head off major disasters in your wedding.

• Spread the Love: Delegate, delegate, delegate. Teach yourself to accept help from loved ones. Don't try to do it all yourself. Trying to do it all yourself is a sure way to create a wedding day disaster – even before your wedding day! But that’s not all. You can prevent a wedding day disaster by recuiting more than one other person to do the things that you can’t do. Imagine arriving at your reception hall only to discover that the decorations were half finished because the job was just too big for your Aunt Betty! Yikes.
  
• Have a Sense of Humor: One of your greatest defenses against a wedding day disaster is a good sense of humor. It not only softens the blow of a less than perfect day, but it turns that event that otherwise might frustrate you and ruin your wedding into sugar and spice making it more memorable than ever – if you can laugh at it. It’s like the older woman who has to wear a wig. Eventually the wig will come off in public. If she is mortified, it is a horrible experience that no one wants to remember, but if she can laugh about it the experience turns positive for everyone.
  
• Limit Alcohol: Alcohol has been a part of celebrating for as far back into history as we can look, but I doubt even one adult in our culture has not seen the effects of a celebration ruined by alcohol. Truly, alcohol has played a part in wedding day disasters far too many times over the years. The accounts are everything from brides too drunk to exchange the vows, to grooms under the influence straying from his new vows, to drunk and obnoxious guests. I even have a vague memory of a drunk guest stumbling into the bride and ripping the bottom half of her dress off!
  
  How you limit the alcohol is up to you. Maybe you only serve bubbly with dinner and do away with the open bar. Some choose to not allow the bar to open at all until after the cake is cut and the bride and groom and preparing to make their departure. Some choose not to serve alcohol at all. Be wise, consider the people in your wedding party and look for a way that is most likely to prevent a wedding day disaster.
  
• Focus on Your Marriage: Taking the long view of things is your final tip to prevent wedding day disasters. It’s easy to get so wrapped up in planning your wedding that you forget all about the marriage or somehow assume that you can work on that after the wedding day is finished. But remember this: Just like any living thing, if your relationship is not growing then it is dying. Be sure to find ways to use the wedding planning stages of your engagement period to build your marriage. To do otherwise and end up celebrating an essentially dead relationship would truly be a wedding day disaster!